When I see/ heard from someone/ judge from experience that person A is a bad person, I would avoid Person A. It somehow feels like a mother seeing a dirty old beggar on the street and try to bring her child further away from him. When I put it that way, I find my actions kind of wrong. I shouldn't judge a person and act that way. It's not right.
But like the mother example, the action stems out from something innocent: the want to protect her child (in my case, I want to protect me). It's a little like a knee-jerk reaction, some people have it, some people don't. Maybe this sense of wanting to protect myself comes from fear. When you're scared of dogs, what's your reaction when you see one? You try to walk as far away from it.
From this experience, I noticed that many parts of my life/actions I have taken were (and still are) largely consumed/motivated/influenced by fear. Fear made me do things I am uncomfortable (e.g. ) without me knowing.
Last year end, I had a realization that some of the things in my life was influenced by fear. Now, I think more than 50% of my daily life alone is being manipulated by fear.
Once I started recognizing fear (how it felt, how my body reacted to it, etc.) I started seeing it more and more. I used to be blinded to it, never knew it's existence. Probably because I always told myself "I'm not scared.", "I'm tough.", "Only weak people get scared.", etc.
Now that I found out a problem, what do I do with it?
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